Every relationship has its ups and downs. Occasionally, there comes one incident that reveals the dysfunction of all parties involved.
Isaac. He was elderly and blind. When the time came to officially pass on the patriarchal blessing, he ignored the message the LORD gave to Rebekah, "...the older shall serve the younger." It also appears that no one bothered to tell Isaac that the birthright had been sold.
Esau. He was older son and normally would have received this blessing. However, he acted foolishly in selling his birthright. Then, he acted deceitfully in not telling his father the truth and acting as if he deserved it.
Rebekah. She knew what God had said concerning the two sons. She probably knew about the sale of the birthright. However, she and Isaac never had the hard conversation concerning the issues with their children. This led her to concoct a plan of further deceit.
Jacob. His name means "supplanter" and this is a key illustration used to prove he was worthy of that name. Esau asked, "Is he not rightly named Jacob?" The character flaw of lying when fearful seems to have passed down from Abraham to Isaac and now Jacob.
One may argue that God's will was done, in spite of the means to accomplish it. Or, as one nationally known Christian leader said to me about the mistreatment of some people in his organization, "The decision would not have changed. They are just upset with the way it was done." What both of those statements are saying is: The end justifies the means. So, is God only interested in the results or is He also concerned with how the results were attained?
Character does not show in the results. Character is always displayed in the means.
Lying, deceit and withholding information will only compound the problems.
1. Concerning ourselves.
Always tell the truth, no matter how much it hurts. We must be clear and come clean about our own behavior.
2. Concerning others.
Do not be afraid to talk about the real issues with the others involved. Ephesians 4:15: "...speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into Him who is the head, into Christ."
3. Concerning the outcome.
Trust God to protect and to bless obedience.