Read Song of Solomon 5.
This chapter highlights two more important elements in maintaining a healthy
marriage. Some changes in the personal references would indicate that no
longer are they newlyweds. If a couple is not careful, they may take each
other for granted. What they used to say and do for each other can feel
unnecessary to them. Other things become more important, transferring
time and attentiveness elsewhere. They grow apart instead of continuing
to cling to each other.
1. Her availability to him. (vv.1-9)
Again, she dreamed about him. In what seems to be a near nightmare, he
came to see her but the door was locked. It was too inconvenient for her
to get up, pull something on, and get her feet dirty to let him in. Then,
in a change of mind, she ran through the streets looking for him. But
unlike her dream in chapter three, this time the city watchmen mistook her for
a criminal. Was this dream displaying her guilty feelings?
Wives can busy themselves with the rightful duties of household chores, their
own work, taking care of children, talking to friends, etc. that they ignore
their most important human relationship. All energies and time are spent
and there is nothing left for her husband when he is available.
If being available to one's spouse is deemed as an inconvenience, some decisive
changes are in order and quick.
2. His attractiveness to her. (vv.10-16)
In chapter four, Solomon kept saying she was beautiful and then gave eight
specific reasons to support his feelings. Here, it is the wife who did
that for him. He was handsome to her and she said so. Beyond his
general appearance, she mentioned nine things about him that she liked.
Husbands have feeling also. A man needs to sense that his wife respects
him, values him, and is attracted to him. Silence is not golden on this
subject. Likewise, this means that a husband must be a man of inward
character and attentive to his appearance.
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