4 signs for women of Mr. Right

 Read Song of Solomon 2.

The unnamed bride expressed her love for Solomon and explained in romantic terms why he was the right man for her.  With her humble background, she looked for reassurances.  In verse 3, she said of all men, this one surprisingly stood out among the rest.  Why?  What were those indicators that caused her to want to spend the rest of her life with him?

This is a good checklist for all women in their days of dating.  And, these are some solid reminders for men on how to treat women.

1. She felt safe with him. (v.3b)
His presence ("shadow") provided a spot of comfort.  Her favorite emotional place was to be in his arms.

2. She enjoyed him.  (v.3c)
Over time, they had enough experience to know one another.  She not only loved him, she liked him; especially, his kisses.

3. She felt special among his friends.  (v.4a)
The king escorted her into his banquet.  Everyone present took notice as he lovingly wanted to show her off.

4. She felt honored by him in public. (v.4b)
The army in the field held the nation's banner high with a sense of pride.  In the same way, in his love for her, he wanted others to take notice of them as a couple.

She was so taken back by all of this that she swooned with weakness.  She could hardly wait to see him, to have something sweet to eat, and for him to hold her.  Then, he arrived (vv.5-17).

 

Conversations of a Courtship

Read Song of Solomon 1.

The wise king wrote 1,005 songs (1 Kings 4:32) but of all of them, this is his "Song of Songs."  Through the years many have taken various views on the book, but it is important to maintain a consistent method of interpreting Scripture.  All of Scripture must pass the tests of historical, grammatical, and literal contexts with the whole of the Bible.  Indeed, "All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness." (2 Timothy 3:16)

Jack S. Deere stated it well in the Bible Knowledge Commentary: "The purpose of the book is to extol human love and marriage.  Though at first this seems strange, on reflection it is not surprising for God to have included in the biblical canon a book endorsing the beauty and purity of marital love.  God created man and woman (Genesis 1:27; 2:20-23) and established and sanctioned marriage (Genesis 2:24).  Since the world views sex so sordidly and perverts and exploits it so persistently and since so many marriages are crumbling because of lack of love, commitment, and devotion, it is advantageous to have a book in the Bible that gives God's endorsement of marital love as wholesome and pure." (BKC pp.1009-1010)

The elements of the conversation between them are the same for all healthy relationships prior to marriage.  These exchanges can help maintain a healthy marriage also.
1 Her desire for him. (vv.1-4)
The bride anticipated the time when she would finally be alone with the king.  She longed for his kisses and expressions of his love.  But it was not only his physical attraction that wooed her.  It was his "name," reputation or character, that motivated this longing for him.  At the end of verse 4, a chorus of unidentified others, possibly family or friends, confirm the rightness of this relationship.  Having conducted a few score of weddings, it is crucial that a couple have wise counsel and the support of others around them.

2. Her feelings of inadequacy. (vv.5-7)
The bride expressed some insecurity about herself and her background.  She explained that she did not grow up as a daughter of privilege.  Her sun tanned appearance was the result of working in her family's vineyard and pasture.  In other words, this girl was a commoner about to marry a king.  Would she be looked down upon or would she be truly accepted?

3. His verbal reassurance. (vv.8-11)
"If you do not know by now...," is the reply.  The soon-to-be groom tried to allay her fears with his statements of love and affirmations of how beautiful she is to him and others.  The comparisons he used do not convey the same message very well to the western mind.  But in the style of Solomon's day, these were romantic things to say.  The voices of others quickly added that jewelry would be made and given to her for even greater compliments to her beauty.

4. Her sighing. (vv.12-14)
Like an intoxicating fragrance, this man was constantly on her mind and stirred an increasing desire for him.

5. His specific appreciation. (v.15)
Solomon simply responded with how attracted he was by her beautiful and peaceful eyes.

6. Her feelings of confidence. (vv.16-17 and 2:1)
The bride thought he was handsome and charming.  Further, she seemed pleased with the environment of their courtship.  Then she made the bold statement of her sense of self-worth.  Common flowers, but she felt beautiful and admired because he said so.  His opinion was all that mattered.

7. His confirming words. (v.2:2)
To him, she was a beautiful flower.  All the other women he considered thorns.  There was no one else for him but her.

Two actions are required for such a conversation: men who will express their love and women who will receive it.

 

3 words for the next Generation

 Read Ecclesiastes 12.

Out of his wisdom and experience, Solomon wrote for the next generation.  In the book of Proverbs, he often began a passage with the words, "my son."  Here, he spoke to "youth."  The immediate context begins in chapter 11.

1. Rejoice. (11:9)
Those who have experienced the love and forgiveness of the LORD should be the happiest humans on earth.  Enjoy life to the fullest. 

2. Remove. (11:10)
And, while you are having fun, be sure to stay away from evil.  Yes, everyone will inevitably have their share of hurts and disappointments from things totally out of their control.   But, the warning is to not bring pain and sorrow on yourself by personal sin. 

3. Remember. (12:1-14)
Solomon closed this book with three sobering lifetime reminders.

We are only here for a short time. (vv.1-8)
This is the best description of the aging process in the Bible.  Our bodies were never meant to last but a few years at best.  The question every person should be asking is, "Then what?"  We are not left in doubt.  The LORD answered the question with clarity.  Eternity awaits.  Where one will spend eternity when the spirit leaves the body depends upon how an individual responded to Jesus and His offer of forgiveness in this life.

For those without a commitment to Christ-
"...just as it is appointed for a man to die once, and after that comes judgment..." (Hebrews 9:27)
For those committed to Christ-
"Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord." (2 Corinthians 5:8)

We must have God's wisdom while we are here. (vv.9-12)
The number of voices calling for us to live by their made-up philosophies has no end.  They are all distractions, energized by Satan himself, to keep people from enjoying a personal relationship with God both here and in eternity.  All true wisdom comes from the LORD, that one true Shepherd of life.  His wisdom nails down the absolutes and urges us on to do what is right.

We are to live for God and fulfill our purpose for being here. (vv.13-14)
It is called "the whole duty of man."  Everything else is temporal and one day we will leave it all behind.

 

4 Things you do not Know

 Read Ecclesiastes 11.

The wisest who ever lived did not know everything.  Four times in six verses Solomon tells us some things we do not know.

1. You do not know what may happen with an investment. (vv.1-4)
Generosity and/or investing in opportunities always carry risks.  One can never tell how coming to the aid of another person or an organization may reap dividends.  But nothing ventured means nothing gained.  Many never give to their church or to help others.  Some never invest in things that matter due to selfishness, laziness, fear of what might happen, or procrastination (v.4).  Profits and rewards only go to those who gave of themselves and their resources.
"Whoever is generous to the poor lends to the LORD, and he will repay him for his deed." (Proverbs 19:17)

2. You do not know how human life is formed. (v.5a)
Certainly, the process is known.  Babies are born.  But the intimacy and intricacies of what God does in the womb to bring all the physical, spiritual and personal elements together is a mystery.
"For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb.  I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." (Psalm 140:13-14a)

3. You do not know the work of God. (v.5b)
This is the completion of the thought above.  Not only is human life the work of God, but everything is His.  We can see the results of the LORD's handiwork, but we do not know what, when and how He will move next.  Jesus said that the way of the Spirit is like the wind.  We do not see the wind; only the effects (John 3:8).  As Sovereign Creator, He is the rightful Owner and Sustainer of all things.
"The earth is the LORD's and the fullness thereof, the world an those who dwell therein." (Psalm 24:1)

4. You do not know what will lead to success. (v.6)
The illustration is of a farmer sowing seed.  He is totally dependent upon the soil, the sun, the amount of rain, and timing.  All out of his control.  Yet, if there is to be a harvest, he must go to work.  He will work hard.  He will probably diversify into planting more than one or two crops to increase the possibility of increased profits.  Then, after he has done all he can do, he must trust God for the outcome. 
"So...whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." (1 Corinthians 10:31)

 

Be Careful!

 Read Ecclesiastes 10.

Solomon spoke 3000 proverbs and wrote 1005 songs (1 Kings 4:32).  This entire chapter, and into the opening verses of chapter 11, is given to wise observations that teach by contrast or comparison.  Here we are warned that a life of wisdom can be overturned in a moment.

1. A wise person is careful about their directions. (vv.1-9)
One may live for God and do great things in His name.  Many people may benefit from their service.  Then, with a single foolish decision or act, their entire reputation may be destroyed and considered worthless.  The highway sign is a good reminder: Keep Right. 
"Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil." (Ephesians 5:15-16)

2. A wise person is careful about their duties. (vv.8-10)
Such a one wants to be the most effective and efficient person on the job.
"...not by the way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but as servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart, rendering service with a good will as to the Lord and not to man..." (Ephesians 6:6-7)

3. A wise person is careful about their discussions. (vv.12-20)
People respond best to gracious or kind words.  No one enjoys the endless, meaningless rants of a fool.  And, one can never tell where those words, once said, may end up.
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." (Ephesians 4:29)

 

4 indicators of a thankful Person

 Read Ecclesiastes 9.

Call it a rat race or a rut, but life without hope is dangerously depressing.  Looking at life from only a horizontal perspective, the same stuff happens to everyone.  Nice guys sometimes do finish last.  So, where is the benefit for one who loves God and tries to do what is right?

When Solomon presented life "under the sun," it was always with a futile tone.  But then in his wisdom he added the view from God's perspective.  The conclusion is that only those who live for the LORD can truly appreciate what God has given to them and enjoy life.

How do people show they are living a life of gratitude to God for all He has done and possess great hope for their future?  Here are four practical principles to observe.  Each of these is a personal choice we make.

1. A thankful person with hope enjoys their food. (v.7)
One who is depressed often loses their appetite.  More than saying a prayer of gratitude before eating, this refers to actually taking time to appreciate the meal.  Too often in a fast-food world, people are hurrying to get on to something else.  Without slowing down the pace and engaging in good conversation, food can become a necessary inconvenience.

2. A thankful person with hope gives attention to their appearance. (v.8)
A person who is depressed will most often show it in the way they look.  Their countenance will be down.  They cease to care about their weight, clothing, hair and face.  While we cannot always judge a person by their outward appearance, one who lives a life of gratitude and hope cannot hide it.

3. A thankful person with hope loves their family. (v.9)
Specifically, the wife is mentioned here.  A marriage is a life-long commitment regardless of the changes in circumstances-for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish.  Remembering that a spouse and children are gifts from God renews the appreciation and care of the relationships.  Forgetting that fact, and treating wedding vows as dispensable, is an affront to God and a sign of selfish ingratitude. 

4. A thankful person with hope engages in their work. (v.10)
Notice a person who does not like their job.  They become lax in details.  They only want to do the minimum to get by.  They cannot wait to get off work.  But one who is grateful to have a job, to be able to care for their needs, and appreciates the opportunity God has given them, shows up energized.

 

3 life management Essentials

 Read Ecclesiastes 8.

The wisest man who ever lived gives advice on how to enjoy life.

1. Relating to authority. (vv.2-9)
Obey those over you.  This essential is not only for those in power who are godly and right.  The Apostle Paul expanded upon this principle in Romans 13:1-4 with Nero as Caesar.  Five times in that passage Paul stated that those in authority over us have been placed, represent, serve and use force on God's behalf.  Pride and selfishness in the heart wants to rebel and get our own way.  And, what if the authority is wrong or out-right evil?  Solomon wrote, "...the wise heart will know the proper time and the just way" in dealing with it (v.5).

2. Recognizing accountability. (vv.10-13)
Fear God.  The greatest deterrent to lawlessness is quick justice.  Because the consequences for sin are not immediate or speedy, the wrong-doer thinks he may get away with it.  The United States Constitution guarantees a speedy trial but the justice system takes years to prosecute.  Even one found guilty of a capital crime may sit on death row for a couple decades or more without the sentence being carried out.  This distances the crime from the punishment in such way that it refocuses attention on the court system instead of the evil.  Lack of accountability and fear of God becomes the result. 

3. Rejoicing on the journey. (vv.14-15)
Enjoy what you have.  Worrying and grumbling about what we do not have will kill our joy.  Yes, life is full of hard work.  Yes, there are hurts and hardships along the way.  Not everything will turn out the way we planned or wanted.  Yet, when we remember that God is sovereign and in control, that our lot in life is not a mistake, that God loves us and extends His grace every moment, that one day we all will stand accountable for what we did with what He gave us, that we have a home waiting in heaven, then we of all people have cause to enjoy this temporary life.

"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before hand that we should walk in them." (Ephesians 2:10)  Live like God's masterpiece today.