What do you say to an empty Life?

 Read Ecclesiastes 1.

How do you measure a life and its value?  What determines true success?

In 1904, there was a national contest to determine and award the finest definition of success.  After scrutinizing all the entries, the judges selected this one: "He is successful who has lived well, loved much and laughed often."  King Solomon declared in essence at the outset of this book, "I lived well.  I love much.  I laughed often and achieved all my goals.  I had it all; all this life could offer me.  But when I backed off to see the results, I felt empty inside."

The key word he used some thirty-seven times (in one form or another) in these twelve chapters is "vanity."  The word means "vapor" or emptiness.  He goes on to say that his endless desire for more proved to be a "vexation" to his spirit.  All of his efforts seemed like "striving after the wind."  Catch a handful and there is really nothing there.  Read: no satisfaction.

However, Solomon knew that life did have great meaning.  It simply was not to be found in earthly pursuits.  Throughout the book the "A" part of his message speaks of emptiness.  Fortunately, he does not leave us there.  Each time he presents a "B" part that brings the reader to a point of hope.  Apart from God, we are destined to measure life only by achievements that produce culturally accepted results.  But true success in life is much more than being famous, how many sales were closed, or how much profit was made.

Five passages in the book of Ecclesiastes explains that God gives us temporal, material possessions to enjoy as a reward for our labors, to please our spouses, to provide for our families, and to use for the glory of God.  Just remember that they are only temporal.  One day we will leave them all behind. 

In light of the fact that we will all stand before the Owner of life for accountability, the most important question is how will the LORD measure my life?  How did I respond to His love and offer of forgiveness in Christ?  Did I use the financial resources, abilities, and time He allowed me to have as a good and faithful steward?  Am I only living for "now" instead of what I can enjoy forever?

 

What to look for in a Wife

 Read Proverbs 31.

Solomon wrote, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD." (Proverbs 18:22)  But there is more.  "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (v.30)

Verses 10-31 is an acrostic poem with each stanza beginning in sequence with the 22 letters of the Hebrew alphabet.  Such a godly woman is praised and has high personal value (v.10) for who she is and what she does.  In summary, here are 7 qualities that this excellent wife demonstrates.

1. Trustworthy. (v.11)
A marriage is dependent upon mutual trust.  The focus on in this verse is that she is trusted by her husband to take care of her responsibilities in such a way that the household prospers.

2. Hardworking at home. (vv.13-15, 20-21, 27)
She tirelessly insures that her household is clothed and fed.

3. Hardworking outside the home. (vv.16-19, 24)
She buys and sells, has merchandise, and makes a profit.

4. Generous. (v.20)
She not only has a heart for the poor and needy but she actually helps them.

5. A valuable partner. (v.23)
She is an asset to her husband.  He has influence in the community, not only because of what he may do, but also because of her good work and reputation.

6. Strength and dignity. (v.25)
Regardless of the situation, she shows herself to be a woman of stability.  Her behavior is honorable and appropriate.

7. Wise and kind. (v.26)
Her speech is characterized by words of good counsel.  She helps others understand life and living in a kindly manner.

It is a rare woman who has such a heart for God, husband, and family who is also gifted in all the areas above.  How thankful and blessed I am and our family continues to hold Diane in high esteem for being such a woman.  As a gift from the LORD, we give her praise from “A to Z”.

 

5 foundational questions for all Mankind

 Read Proverbs 30.

It is by design that humans have inquiring minds to want to know that which is beyond them; to discover how things work; to realize spiritual truth.  How did we get here?  Why are we here?  Where are we going?

Under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, these are the words of Agur.  At the outset he wrote of how humbled he felt.  How could anyone be able to follow the wisdom of Solomon?  Yet, God used him here, in verse 4, to ask five of the most foundational questions for all mankind. 

1. Who has gone to heaven and back?
Note that in the context this is not a reference to mere space travel.  It is beyond the sky and space to the dwelling place of God Himself.  Unless one has done this, they cannot truly tell us about it.  The answer to the question is Christ Jesus.  He came, He ascended, and He is coming back again.

2. Who controls the wind?
There are scientific explanations of wind current movements and weather but only to a point.  Those are done by observation and not by control.  Earth has been supplied with oxygen in order to sustain life.  We are dependent on the movements of air in so many ways.  There is only One who takes such credit for providing and controlling the wind.

3. Who controls the water?
Without fresh water, human life is not sustainable.  Without appropriate amounts of rain in season crops cannot produce.  Earth is totally dependent on it.  Inexplicable and foolish thinking is required to believe that such a vital element of life is available to us by accident.  There is only One who takes full credit for life on earth.

4. Who established the earth?
The question is not "what" caused the earth to come into being, as is the attempt of all natural explanations.  The question is "who."  God Himself challenged Job (38:4) by asking, "Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth?  Tell me if you have understanding."  There is only One who claims to be the Creator and Sustainer of the universe.  "For by him (Jesus) all things were created, in heaven and on earth..." (Colossians 1:16)

5. What is his name, and what is his son's name?
Since there is only One who fits the answer to all these questions, humans are not given a choice to decide this on their own.  By asking "his son's name", this God of heaven is relational.  There is One who is the Son of God.  "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16)  Through faith in Jesus, we can be welcomed into the very family of God and enjoy a home in heaven with Him.

 

 

"Where there is no vision..."

 Read Proverbs 29.

"Where there is no prophetic vision the people cast off restraint, but blessed is he who keeps the law." (v.18)

Due to the King James Version, all too often this verse has been used to promote the necessity of organizational vision development and the warning that without it the organization will die.  That is a leadership truism but has nothing to do with this verse.  Fortunately, newer translations help us understand the accurate meaning.

The vision here is the revelation of God's message delivered to His prophet.  In other words, it is the Word of God that people need to hear.  In the absence of knowing what God has said, people will be left to themselves to determine right from wrong and how to behave.  The Hebrew word translated in the KJV as "perish" correctly means "to loosen" or, as in the ESV, "cast off restraint."

An illustration of Proverbs 29:18 may be found in Exodus 32.  Moses was still on Mt. Sinai receiving commandments of the law from the LORD.  With no word from God and concerned about what may have happened to Moses, the people became impatient demanding they take spiritual matters into their own hands.  They wanted to make idols of gold, like the pagan nations around them.  They gave credit to these made-up gods for delivering them from Egypt!  Without restraint, they presented offerings in worship to their idols, feasted, and then they "rose up to play."

All false teaching stems from a lack of studying and understanding the Scriptures.  A major part of our mission is to teach all that God has commanded (Matthew 28:20) so people know how to live for the Lord.

 

4 character qualities of a godly Leader

 Read Proverbs 28.

Many great books on the subject of leadership have been written over the past couple of decades.  "Leadership as an Identity" by Dr. Crawford Loritts is one of the best.  Instead of taking an organizational approach, he targets a leader's character.  Such is what Solomon did in several verses in this chapter.

The world has seen too many leaders who use their position only for personal gain and abuse their power in a tyrannical manner.  In great contrast, here are four characteristics of a godly leader.

1. Stability. (v.2)
Wicked rulers do not last and neither will their governments, businesses, or organizations.  The reason is due to their egotistical agendas.  It is all about them.  A godly leader's chief concern is for the welfare and prosperity of the people.  One ends in disgrace and demise.  The other leaves a long standing legacy of good works.

2. Glory. (vv.12, 28)
With good and godly leadership, the people carry a sense of pride in their work and/or their government.  When bad and evil persons get into power, good people look for ways to protect themselves.  They will either do what they can in order to get out from under that leader's control or do what they must as they pray and wait for a leadership change.

3. Humility. (v.15)
There is no greater abuse than when a person of power oppresses, coerces, and threatens the helpless.  Not so with those who recognize their position and opportunities as God-given.  Accountability engenders humility and a service mindset.

 4. Honesty. (v.16)
A dishonest leader is invariably on the take.  Kick-backs and pay-offs are the methods of operation.  Then, that leader must lie and cover up his dealings.  An honest leader understands the truth always becomes known, sooner or later.  An honest leader works in an atmosphere of transparency.

 

4 indicators of a good Friend

Read Proverbs 27.

"A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow." – William Shakespeare

There are four references in this chapter as to what friends do.  They give us good indicators of evaluating whether a person is truly a friend or just an acquaintance.

1. A friend will rebuke us when we are wrong. (v.6)
It is a faithful friend who will step in at the right time and provide needed correction because they love us.  One who does not care will ignore our wrongs.  One who cares only about themselves will rebuke in an unloving way.
"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard

2. A friend will refresh us with good advice. (v.9)
Such conversation is helpful and kind.  It makes us glad for the opportunity to talk things through with them.

"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." – Henry Ford 

3. A friend will remain with us. (v.10)

Through thick and thin they are there.  Loyalty, especially in times of adversity, is a true test of friendship.

"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over." – Octavia Butler 

4. A friend will reignite our personal growth. (v.17)

We are responsible for our own spiritual, occupational and personal development.  At times we can become lax or stuck.  It is a true friend who comes alongside, providing some encouragement and urging us forward.

"No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow." – Alice Walker 

"Friends are the family you choose" – Jess C. Scott 

So, choose your friends wisely.

 

10 things you should know about a Fool

 Read Proverbs 26.

How should we respond to a fool?  The comparisons and contrasts of wisdom versus foolishness dominate the opening verses of this chapter.  Instruction is given here in regards to the understanding and treatment of fools.

1. Honoring them. (v.1 and v.8)
Do not do it.  It will prove harmful.  Snow or heavy rain at the time of harvest would ruin the crops and destroy profits.  Someone is going to get hurt.

2. Correcting them. (v.3)
Restricting them or inflicting some pain appears to be the only means of controlling them due to the fact you cannot reason with them.

3. Answering them not. (v.4)
Sometimes the best course of action to a foolish rant is to ignore it.  Often, it is only a taunt with the intent to bring you into a fight.

4. Answering them. (v.5)
Sometimes responding to them in kind may help them realize they are not as smart as they thought.  Wisdom is required to know when and when not to respond.

5. Relying on them. (v.6)
Expecting a fool to faithfully carry out his duties will prove harmful to the one who sent him.

6. Teaching them. (v.7)
Wise words are useless to a fool because his heart is not right with God.  Being wise is an inside job.

7. Understanding them. (v.9)
A fool lacks sense.  His feelings are numb to certain things in life.  He does not feel the impact of wise words.

8. Hiring them. (v.10)
A fool in the work place can jeopardize the morale and production of all the other employees.

9. Enduring them. (v.11)
He will keep on making the same bad decisions over and over until there is some strong correction or a change of heart.

10. Comparing them. (v.12)
There is someone worse than a fool and that is the egoist.  A person who is full of themselves thinks they know better than everyone else.  Like the fool, they do not listen to wisdom.

 

How to treat someone who has wronged You

 Read Proverbs 25.

Forgiving someone who has lied, stolen, betrayed or otherwise hurt you is difficult.  Some say they cannot forgive.  In doing so, they only harm themselves emotionally and spiritually.  The only basis in the universe for forgiveness of sin is the full payment Christ made on the cross.

We do not deserve to be forgiven by God.  It is an offer of His grace to us.  Therefore, we who have experienced God's forgiveness are free to forgive others their wrongs against us.

Jesus included that thought as an element for our prayers.  "...and forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us." (Luke 11:4a)

Forgiving another person is one thing but how we treat them afterward is the proof.  In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus taught, "You have heard it said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.  But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you...'" (Matthew 5:43-44)

Proverbs 25:21-22 gives specific illustrations of how to put that into practice.  If a household did not have coals for their fire, they could not cook and/or had no heat.  Providing starter coals for a family, which they could carry "on their heads," would have been an act of kindness.

Under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, the Apostle Paul coupled Deuteronomy 32:35 with Proverbs and expanded the application.  "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.'  To the contrary, 'if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.'  Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."     (Romans 12:19-21)

 

How to turn a house into a Home

 Read Proverbs 24.

The problem with most premarital counseling is that no one is listening.  Trying to discuss real life issues and potential conflicts with two people who are at an emotional peak may prove to be fruitless.  The tragedy is that most couples spend all their time getting ready for the wedding, lasting only a few minutes, and none getting ready for the marriage in which they promise to keep until their death.

What are those key elements that every person, every couple, and everyone in the family needs in order to build a home that will last?

1. "By wisdom a house is built." (v.3a)
Proverbs 9:1 states that "Wisdom has built her house; she has hewn her seven pillars."  James 3:17 lists seven characteristics of godly wisdom: pure, peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial, and sincere.  This requires the filling of the Holy Spirit, self-discipline and a lot of practice.

2. "By understanding it is established." (v.3b)
Understanding each other's personal strengths and weaknesses, abilities and needs, what to do and what not to do, takes a lifelong commitment of time.  This requires a willingness to learn and ability to adapt.

3. "By knowledge the rooms are filled..." (v.4a)
Here is the starting point.  Proverbs 1:7-"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge."  Without a personal relationship with the Savior, the most important decision for a successful marriage will be missed.  Living each day with the mutual awareness of God's life principles and the understanding of accountability to Him provides the very glue that is necessary.

 

3 wise questions to evaluate Motives

 Read Proverbs 23.

In the opening verses of this chapter Solomon warns "do not" four times.  His purpose is to cause the reader to evaluate what they are doing and why.  It is the fool who blindly consumes only to desire more.  But there are motives behind every action; not all are pure.

Here are three questions to ask in evaluating motives.  The point is to think and be careful.
1. Why is a wealthy person showing kindness to you? (vv.1-3)
How should you respond and act when a person of financial means or high position extends an invitation?  A fool sees selfish opportunity and wants to get all they can from the engagement.  Think and be careful.  Most often there is a reason behind the invitation.  Yes, it could be to extend friendship, perhaps a reward, or even something mutually beneficial.  However, just as often it is because they want something from you.  A wise person is humbled to be included and cautiously restrains themselves.

2. Why do you do what you do? (vv.4-5)
Knowing one's purpose in life according to God's design is essential to a fulfilling life.  Too many people work hard only for the money.  Money is deceptive and fickle, like a bird that lights on a tree limb and then flies away.  At best, all our finances are temporal.  Money is a tool to be used, not a goal in itself.  So, the moral evaluation in our labors has to do with what we are trying accomplish.  A wise person thinks and is careful.  Once we recognize that God owns everything (Psalm 24:1), we see our work and our wealth as a stewardship to take care of and to expand His work in this world.

3. Why is a stingy person showing kindness to you? (vv.6-8)
It is unusual for a person, who is known to be tight with their finances, to demonstrate generosity.   A wise person thinks and proceeds carefully.  Have they had a change in heart?  Are they doing this out of some forced obligation?  Do they have a hidden agenda?  Of course, we always want to be kind to our host but remember that their motives may not be pure and our compliments wasted.  Without caution we may be setting ourselves up for huge regret.  The word stingy is often translated "evil".  This is in contrast to Proverbs 22:9-"Whoever has a bountiful eye will be blessed, for he shares his bread with the poor."

When it comes to interacting with others, Jesus taught His followers to be "wise as serpents and innocent as doves" (Matthew 10:16).  When it comes to our behavior, we are to be generous and give with pure motives, "expecting nothing in return" (Luke 6:35).

 

11 words about the Word that will change your Life.

 Read Proverbs 22.

From v.17-
1. Incline: My Granddad was hard of hearing.  So, when someone spoke to him, he would place his right hand to his ear, bend the flap, and lean forward.  It was a sign that he was intent on what was being said.

2. Hear: The Hebrew word has to do with giving one's full attention.

3. Apply: It is one thing to listen to knowledge, it is quite another to put it into practice.  Until we implement what we heard, we really have not learned. (v.18)

4. Pleasant: When one sees the benefits and embraces the truth it is a delight to the soul.

5. Kept within: This involves memorizing verses and/or principles.  Reviewing them for accuracy and meditating on them for wisdom will cause them to stick in our thinking.

6. Ready: When the opportunity arises, we have something to say.  Not an opinion, but God's timeless perspective that will be helpful to others now and for eternity. (v.19)

7. Trust: God's goal is that through knowing and applying the Scriptures our faith and reliance on Him will keep on increasing. (vv.20-21)

8. Written: Though Solomon was specific here, the entirety of Scripture is written down for us.

9. Know: We may have absolute confidence in God's Word about what is right and wrong, true and false. 

10. Give: The purpose knowing God’s word is never for personal arrogance or to be used against others.  Sharing Scripture is our greatest resource in serving the true needs of those around us.

11. Sent: We who have committed our lives to Jesus are on a mission to tell the world of God's wonderful message to them.

1 Peter 3:15-16a, "But in your hearts regard Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect..."

 

When things seem out of Control

 Read Proverbs 21.

If you ever wonder if God is still in control, here are three statements to consider.  These will test our faith when things appear to be going in the wrong direction.

1. The LORD controls the leaders.
"The king's heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will."  (v.1)
Do leader's sin? Yes they do.  Are some even under the influence of Satan?  Yes.  But they will ultimately fulfill God's purposes.  In the days of Daniel, Nebuchadnezzar made some horrible, anti-God decisions.  But the LORD was able to protect His people and change the king.  In the days of Esther, the king made some unconscionable decrees.  Yet, God moved in a miraculous way to change the king's mind and world history.  

Pray for the leaders in your life.

2. The LORD controls the plans.
"No wisdom, no understanding, no counsel can avail against the LORD." (v.30)
Satan and the selfish interests of the human mind have invented an endless array of false beliefs and directions for life.  However, none of them will stand the tests of time and truth.  Reading the Scriptures and comparing them with history provides absolute confidence that God is in charge of His-story.  Indeed, the culmination of all things is written down for us.  We are not left in the dark as to what the LORD is doing.
Learn God's plans in the Bible.

3. The LORD controls the results.
"The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the LORD." (v.31)
This statement laughs in the face of those who claim to be self-made successes.  All power, and therefore all glory, belongs to the Owner of all things.  Are we responsible to work hard and diligently use our opportunities for achievement of good goals?  Absolutely.  But as we do, it is with the full recognition of the Source of our gifts, talents, opportunities and results.
Trust God for His will to be done.

Can I trust You?

 Read Proverbs 20.

"Trust me", they say.  But are they trustworthy?  Trust is established by verification and/or performance.  Did their words prove true?  Did they do what they promised? 

The Bible holds in highest regard a person's faithfulness.  It is a serious matter to the LORD.  Our world treats truth as relative.  Deceit is acceptable.  Lying is rationalized and excused.  Verse 6 asks the question, "...a faithful man who can find?" 
 
1. Claims.
Exaggerations and overstatements are no substitutes for truthfulness in claims or accomplishments.  How many times have high-profile people been caught with false claims on their resumes or plagiarism in their writings?  Some can look right into the camera or under oath and lie. 
  
2. Commitments.
Everyday people make promises to lenders to pay on time over a period of years.  They sign their name to the contract to be faithful.  The ultimate commitment in life is marriage.  Before God, family and witnesses the couple makes a lifelong promise, regardless of the circumstances.  The vow states "until death" but about 50% of marriages do not last that long.  Usually, it is one party who decides to violate the trust and prove to be unfaithful.  Instead of being embarrassed and humbly dealing with the sin, the guilty party wants to simply and pridefully walk away.

3. Conduct.
Verse 23 refers to how one conducts their business.  Some are willing to say anything to make a sale or cheat to get ahead.  But, accuracy is important to God who watches every transaction. 

Faithfulness is a character issue of integrity.  God is ever trustworthy.  Those who know Jesus are to reflect His character in every moment.  

"The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." (Lamentations 3:22-23)

 

Perspectives on the Poor

 Read Proverbs 19.

Wealth can attract the attention of many so-called friends.  But when the money disappears, one discovers who their true friends are.  Then, what about those who never had much?  Judging the poor strictly by their financial status may well lead to a wrong conclusion.

In this chapter, the LORD provides four principles of His perspective on the poor. 
1. Character. (v.1)
Here is the contrast.  Which is better: to have no money yet live and do what is right, or to have money yet speak and behave as a fool?  Character has nothing to do with one's bank account.  It has everything to do with who a person is on the inside. Even without resources, a poor person may stand tall in their integrity.

2. Connections. (vv.6-7)
A wealthy person can be surrounded by people and highly connected with others.  Many who desire to be friends with the wealthy are wanting something from them.  But when one has nothing materially to give, it can be lonely.  They may even be treated with disdain.  One of the beautiful features of a healthy local church is its diversity.  Regardless of one's background, race, or financial status, all stand on level ground at the foot of the cross, sit together in worship, and learn together how to apply the Scriptures.  

3. Charity. (v.17)
Giving to the poor is not a matter of providing money but resources.  This is the mistake of most of the government's efforts.  Wealth redistribution is not helpful to either the wealthy or the poor.  Certainly, there must be provisions of care and compassion for immediate needs.  Counseling and job training coupled with work opportunities are essential to helping people get out of poverty.  The truly poor should be helped in a dignified way that leads them to support themselves.  While a church can provide friendship and spiritual help, the practical resources are usually available through some fine local organizations.

4. Consistency. (v.22)
Everyone desires to be faithfully loved.  If the poor is truly to be helped, it cannot be a hit and miss operation but demonstrated in consistent acts of love for them.  To say we love and not support it with actions is falsehood.  

“…let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” 1 John 3:18

 

Rethinking personal Security

 Read Proverbs 18.

Where do you run when threatened?  Where is that place of personal safety and security? 

1. Physical security. 

When building a city in the days of the Old Testament, security and safety took two basic forms.  There would be a wall all around.  At the sign of trouble, those working in the fields outside could run to the nearest gate.  At night, the gates were locked.  Watchmen served as lookouts at their stations on the wall.  The second type of structure was a tower.  Sometimes, they were built outside the wall or along the road for emergencies.  Often, defensive towers were constructed inside the wall as a stronghold.  This acted as a large safe-room for people inside the city, if the gates or walls were breached.

Today, there are alarm systems for cars and homes.  We can call 911.  Some have weapons at the ready.  We trust the police to keep our streets safe and the military to protect our nation.  But there are no guarantees.

2. Financial security. (v.11)
Living below our income level.
Keeping plenty of margin in our monthly budget for the unexpected.
Saving money equal to many months of our income in case of job loss.
Contributing the maximum to our retirement funds.
Investing wisely.
These are all prudent ways to build financial security.  But there are no guarantees.

3. Spiritual security. (v.10, 12)
"The name of the LORD is a strong tower."  His name refers to His character and reputation.  The LORD is eternally faithful.  Physical safety measures may not always protect us.  Financial losses are always possible.  But the strong name of Jesus is an unfailing place of refuge and peace.  The enemy of this security is pride.  Once a person admits their need and humbles themselves before God they discover His acceptance and protection.

Lina Sandell penned the old hymn entitled "Security."
"More secure is no one ever than the loved ones of the Savior..."
"Neither life nor death can ever from the Lord His children sever;
For His love and deep compassion comforts them in tribulation."

 

6 keys to peace and Quiet

 Read Proverbs 17.

Peace and quiet are missing elements in our noisy, high-tech, informational bombarding world.  We need times of turning off the noise.  Withdrawing to a place of solitude for prayer and spiritual renewal is necessary for our well-being.  There are times when remaining quiet, when we could have spoken, shows wise discernment.  Living in contentment instead of striving for more brings inner satisfaction. 

Several verses in this chapter underscore the values of peace and quiet. 
1. Our home. (v.1)
Having more stuff often brings more stress and strife with it.  Being grateful for what we have is essential to peace at home.

2. Our listening. (v.4)
What goes in is sure to come out.  A person who allows their ears to listen to evil, wicked words will be affected in their thinking, their speech and their behavior.  We need to screen, and even steel, ourselves from people, music, and movies that are offensive to the LORD.

3. Our trustworthiness. (v.9)
Covering has to do with keeping quiet about someone else's sin.  Ideally, with confession and forgiveness, the matter can be resolved quietly and peaceably.  But when instead the sin is told to those who are not part of the problem or part of the solution, a person's character can be destroyed.  Open conflict will be the result.

4. Our responses. (v.14)
When conflict does come (and it will), it is important to respond quickly and not allow escalation.  It is easier to deal with a small disagreement than it is to stop a war.

5. Our family. (v.17)
Many times we are not able to cope with the trouble that comes our way.  We need someone to listen to us, to love us, and to provide assistance.  That is why God has given us a family.  Friends may come and go, but we have family by birth.  Many do not have a natural family to whom they can turn.  The church is a family of believers who can provide that kind of mutual support for each other.

6. Our discretion. (v.20)
Knowing when to speak up and when to be quiet requires wisdom.  Telling all we know in every conversation is foolishness.  Sometimes the hardest work of all is the ministry of simply listening to another's strife.  Wisdom is often demonstrated by its restraint as much as its actions.

 

6 questions to ask of every Plan

 Read Proverbs 16.

Everyone has dreams and desires they would like to see accomplished.  But without plans and appropriate action, our desires will only be wishes that will never happen.  Planning requires thought.  What should we be thinking in regards to things we want to see take place?

1. Who is in control? (vv.1, 33)
Ultimately, we must be willing to submit our wills to God’s sovereignty.  We can come up with ideas, even wonderfully helpful ones, but primary in our thinking must be what the LORD wants us to be doing.
 
2. What is my motive? (vv.2, 18)
Is this a selfish idea to feed my pride or is this a great plan that will help others?  Pride is the enemy.  Getting ahead at all costs will not go unpunished.  Winning is a worthy goal, but it is not everything.

3. How have I prayed? (vv.3, 9)
Notice, it is not did I pray but how.  Was I trying to talk God into my idea or was I surrendering my thoughts to His will for my life?  The outcome of the latter will be settledness or contentment in my heart as I move forward.

4. Do I recognize God's purpose? (v.4)
Ephesians 2:10 states that our lives are His workmanship.  In Romans 8:28, Paul wrote that all things in life work together for our good and God's glory.  Envisioning how this plan fits God's purpose for my life provides a boldness and confidence nothing else can.

5. What influence could this have on those who do not like me? (v.7)
A wrong sort of competitive spirit can be warlike.  But one of the indicators that the Holy Spirit is in control is peace.  We cannot control nor are we responsible for how others may respond.  We are accountable to God for actions.

6. Where is this leading? (vv.17, 25)
Is this plan clean before God and is it headed in the right direction?  A hallmark of the right plan is that it leads away from anything sinful or evil.

A valuable verse to memorize:
"Commit your work to the LORD and your plans will be established." (v.3)

 

2 things that are free and have a high Price

 Read Proverbs 15.

The best things in life are free...and come at a high cost.

In the middle of this chapter, are two verses that declare things that are "better" for life.  Each is free, in that they do not require any money.  Yet, each of them bears a price.

1. Holding God in reverence. (v.16)
Repeatedly in the book of Proverbs we are admonished to fear the LORD.  This is the starting point of all wisdom (1:7) and it is the requirement for the path of life.  Experiencing such a relationship with the Living God is free by His grace.  It is His gift to us (Romans 6:23).  Yet, it comes at such a price we cannot imagine.  The sinless Son of God took our sin upon Himself so we might have His righteousness (2 Corinthians 5:21).  This, according to wisdom, is better than having all the money in the world.

2. Loving family at home. (v.17)
The household income may be meager.  One's financial ability may be limited to an extreme.  But expressing and receiving love is free.  Yet, it costs us repeatedly in the daily sacrifices in every way.  Maintaining a loving relationship with family involves giving up what we want for the needs of the people God has given to us.  It changes the use of our time, deflates our egos, changes our plans, and will drain what finances we do have.  It will drive us to our knees for intercessory prayer.  True love is more than an emotion.  What separates love from lust is commitment.  When one is willing to commit themselves for life to their family and their needs, it will be better than all the other provisions one could possibly give to their family.

 

Is truth relative or Absolute?

 Read Proverbs 14.

Nothing is more foundational to a person's character than truthfulness.  If one's words cannot be trusted then any relationship with them will prove futile and, perhaps, dangerous.

1. Living a lie. (v.2)
How a person responds to the LORD is the first step in building a life of truthfulness.  It is the understanding that we are accountable to God for every word.  Jesus said, "I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak." (Matthew 12:36)  Those who try to ignore this basic truth will find themselves living a lie, pretending they have no accountability.  With God as Judge, no one gets away with lying.  

2. Telling a lie. (vv.5 and 25)
Both of these verses refer to a witness providing public testimony.  The example in verse 25 appears to be a capital trial where a defendant's life is at stake.  The point is that what we say has direct effect on the lives of others.  Always telling the truth is the recognition that our words are accountable to others.  Sooner or later, the truth will be known.  No one gets away with lying.
   
3. Knowing the truth. (v.6)
When a person is right with God they are committed to the truth.  Understanding the applications of truth is the essence of spiritual growth.  Sid S. Buzzell wrote, "Mockers look for wisdom in all the wrong places." (Bible Knowledge Commentary).  Some are being told the lie to look within themselves.  Some are told the lie to trust in systems or organizations.  The Apostle Paul wrote strong words of condemnation for those who would seek truth in other places in 2 Timothy 3.  The entire chapter makes the point that without a commitment to Jesus Christ and the Scriptures one is doomed to be "always learning and never able to arrive at a knowledge of the truth." (v.7)

Jesus, the Living Word of God.  "I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14:6)
The Scriptures, the Written Word of God.  Jesus prayed, "Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth." (John 17:17)

 

6 principles of financial Prosperity

 Read Proverbs 13.

Resources are everywhere regarding financial planning, wealth management, and how to retire to the life of your dreams.  Then, in fine print, all legitimate investments will include a disclaimer that there are no guarantees.  When the Bible speaks to these subjects it is in the form of principles that are rooted in personal character.  Yes, your financial results may vary, but the wisdom is timeless.

1. Always tell the truth. (v.5)
"The righteous hates falsehood."  How many get-rich-quick schemes have been based upon false assumptions?  How many sales presentations have exaggerated or lied to close the deal?  Lying may result in a sale but when the truth is known everyone involved will be disappointed.

2.  Do not pretend to be something you are not. (v.7)
Quite often the person who flaunts a wealthy image is a pretender.  They become so concerned how others perceive them that they behave foolishly.  It is form of lying.  On the other hand, one whom God has blessed with a degree of abundance should use discernment as a good and accountable steward of what they have been given.

3. Be patient and take the long view. (v.11)
We live in a world that increasingly wants instant gratification.  And, in the area of money, the tendency is to get all you can and get it now.  That is the consistent thinking of the foolish.  Wisdom takes the long view and sees that a sustainable life is built by the decisions made day by day.  The question of good stewardship is what are we doing with what the LORD has already provided?  In the parable of the talents, part of the rewarding phrase is "You have been faithful over little; I will set you over much" (Matthew 25:21).

4. Listen to wise advice. (v.18)
A sure sign of a fool is that they reject wisdom.  The results are poverty and disgrace.  One who heeds sound counsel and behaves accordingly is on the opposite path.

5. Plan to impact future generations. (v.22)
No one takes their wealth with them.  One day we will leave everything behind.  The foolish spend all they have on worthless and selfish interests.  The wise are thinking of how they can help others, even after they are gone.  A good steward is one who not only generous with their income, but also is a good steward of their estate.  This involves having an updated will and an estate plan.

6. Learn to be content. (v.25)
Being diligent in our work and trusting God to provide for our needs are the basics.  Disciplining our wants is absolutely crucial.  So, whether we have plenty or in need, it is our character that is being put to the wisdom test.  The Apostle Paul wrote, "I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.  I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound."  

Wise people are Encouraging

 Read Proverbs 12.

No one needs to search for things to discourage them.  There is plenty enough bad news to be found for all of us in every direction.  One of the character traits of a wise person is their kindness and words of encouragement.  Any fool can criticize.  It requires thoughtfulness to add value to others.

"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad." (v.25) 

The Institute for Biblical Preaching, founded by Dr. Stephen Olford, provided the following outline of this single verse.
I. The Weight of Discouragement
   1) There is a Cause of Discouragement
   2) There is a Curse of Discouragement
II. The Word of Encouragement
   1) The Source of Encouragement
   2) The Strength of Encouragement

Burdened by sin, plus the cares and worries of this life, cause a person to droop mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.  But one kind, loving, word of good news can release that weight and set a person free.

Speaking encouraging words to others does not come naturally.  But once we have experienced the life-changing power of Christ and His kindness to us, we of all people have more than enough hope to share.

"For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another.  But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us..." (Titus 3:3-5a)

 

13 benefits of being right with God

 Read Proverbs 11.

What difference does it make in real life if one is right with God?  Righteousness is the result of being spiritually born into God's family through personal faith in Jesus Christ.  "If you know that he is righteous, you may be sure that everyone who practices righteousness has been born of him" (1 John 2:29).  Faith in Christ saves us.  But as James reminds us, "faith without works is dead."  So how does being right with God show itself?

This chapter repeatedly contrasts the wisdom of the wise with the foolishness of the wicked.
1. The righteous have security beyond this life. (v.4)
2. The righteous live a consistent life. (v.5)
3. The righteous are free from the bondage of sin. (v.6)
4. The righteous discern and protect themselves from trouble. (v.8)
5. The righteous know they must control their words. (v.9)
6. The righteous serve for the community's benefit. (v.10-11)
7. The righteous do not place their faith in the uncertainty of money. (v.18)
8. The righteous pursue those things that protect their lives. (v.19)
9. The righteous make decisions that protect their family. (v.21)
10. The righteous have a passion for good. (v.23)
11. The righteous are not dependent on circumstances to grow as a person. (v.28)
12. The righteous add value to others by their wisdom. (v.30)
13. The righteous understand that no one gets away with sin. (v.31)

Wisdom, Wealth, and Words

 Read Proverbs 10.

"A wise son makes a glad father."  Every parent wants their children to grow up to be wise in their life choices and decisions.  Solomon touches on numerous points in this chapter but he keeps coming back to two in particular that demonstrate wisdom.

1. The Wealth of the Wise
v.1-It must be earned honestly.
v.4-It is earned through diligence.
v.5-It is the result of timely work.
v.15-It provides personal security.
v.16-It is used by the righteous for a meaningful life.
v.22-It needs God's blessing to have lasting value.

2. The Words of the Wise
v.11-They provide refreshment to others.
v.13-They bring clarity to life circumstances.
v.20-They are of high value.
v.21-They benefit others.
v.31-They are the fruit of the cultivation of the heart.
v.32-They delight those who listen.

 

7 pillars of Wisdom

 Read Proverbs 9.

Wisdom is pictured as having prepared a feast and sent out messengers inviting anyone to come.  The question of life is who will respond to wisdom and who will choose to behave foolishly?

It is interesting that wisdom is said to be built on a platform of seven pillars.  But we are not told what they are.  Though many have made various suggestions to explain the symbolism, the reality seems to be that wisdom has a large, spacious place with plenty of room for all who wish to respond.

I am indebted to Dr. Henry Morris and his masterful synthesis of Scripture as he connected the seven pillars to James 3:17.  "But the wisdom from above is...
1. First pure
Without a commitment to maintaining a life of piety and holiness, wisdom can go no further.  Without purity, a person’s thinking will be tainted.  We are to be holy, because the One we worship is holy.

2. Peaceable
A wise person seeks peace, even in times of confrontation.  There is a settledness and contentment in the demeanor of one who is wise.

3. Gentle
Who does not feel safe in the presence of a person who is mild-mannered?  Gentleness puts the feelings of others ahead of our own.  A soft voice is most often more effective and heard above the yells of others.

4. Open to reason.
A sure sign of a wise person is how they respond when presented with a decision.  Do they foolishly try to intimidate or are they easily approachable?  Do their decisions make sense to all?

5. Full of mercy and good fruits
One who is wise is known by their many acts of kindness to others.

6. Impartial
The wise are characterized by fair and equitable decisions.  There is no prejudice or favor to one side.

7. Sincere
What you see is what you get.  There are no hidden agendas, no hypocrisy or double messages.