4 character qualities of a godly Leader

Read Proverbs 28.

Many great books on the subject of leadership have been written over the past couple of decades.  "Leadership as an Identity" by Dr. Crawford Loritts is one of the best.  Instead of taking an organizational approach, he targets a leader's character.  Such is what Solomon did in several verses in this chapter.

The world has seen too many leaders who use their position only for personal gain and abuse their power in a tyrannical manner.  In great contrast, here are four characteristics of a godly leader.

1. Stability. (v.2)
Wicked rulers do not last and neither will their governments, businesses, or organizations.  The reason is due to their egotistical agendas.  It is all about them.  A godly leader's chief concern is for the welfare and prosperity of the people.  One ends in disgrace and demise.  The other leaves a long standing legacy of good works.

2. Glory. (vv.12, 28)
With good and godly leadership, the people carry a sense of pride in their work and/or their government.  When bad and evil persons get into power, good people look for ways to protect themselves.  They will either do what they can in order to get out from under that leader's control or do what they must as they pray and wait for a leadership change.

3. Humility. (v.15)
There is no greater abuse than when a person of power oppresses, coerces, and threatens the helpless.  Not so with those who recognize their position and opportunities as God-given.  Accountability engenders humility and a service mindset.

 4. Honesty. (v.16)
A dishonest leader is invariably on the take.  Kick-backs and pay-offs are the methods of operation.  Then, that leader must lie and cover up his dealings.  An honest leader understands the truth always becomes known, sooner or later.  An honest leader works in an atmosphere of transparency.

4 indicators of a good Friend

Read Proverbs 27.

"A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow." – William Shakespeare

There are four references in this chapter as to what friends do.  They give us good indicators of evaluating whether a person is truly a friend or just an acquaintance.

1. A friend will rebuke us when we are wrong. (v.6)
It is a faithful friend who will step in at the right time and provide needed correction because they love us.  One who does not care will ignore our wrongs.  One who cares only about themselves will rebuke in an unloving way.
"A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you." – Elbert Hubbard

2. A friend will refresh us with good advice. (v.9)
Such conversation is helpful and kind.  It makes us glad for the opportunity to talk things through with them.

"My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me." – Henry Ford

3. A friend will remain with us. (v.10)

Through thick and thin they are there.  Loyalty, especially in times of adversity, is a true test of friendship.

"Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over." – Octavia Butler

4. A friend will reignite our personal growth. (v.17)

We are responsible for our own spiritual, occupational and personal development.  At times we can become lax or stuck.  It is a true friend who comes alongside, providing some encouragement and urging us forward.

"No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow." – Alice Walker

"Friends are the family you choose" – Jess C. Scott

So, choose your friends wisely.

10 things you should know about a Fool

Read Proverbs 26.

How should we respond to a fool?  The comparisons and contrasts of wisdom versus foolishness dominate the opening verses of this chapter.  Instruction is given here in regards to the understanding and treatment of fools.

1. Honoring them. (v.1 and v.8)
Do not do it.  It will prove harmful.  Snow or heavy rain at the time of harvest would ruin the crops and destroy profits.  Someone is going to get hurt.

2. Correcting them. (v.3)
Restricting them or inflicting some pain appears to be the only means of controlling them due to the fact you cannot reason with them.

3. Answering them not. (v.4)
Sometimes the best course of action to a foolish rant is to ignore it.  Often, it is only a taunt with the intent to bring you into a fight.

4. Answering them. (v.5)
Sometimes responding to them in kind may help them realize they are not as smart as they thought.  Wisdom is required to know when and when not to respond.

5. Relying on them. (v.6)
Expecting a fool to faithfully carry out his duties will prove harmful to the one who sent him.

6. Teaching them. (v.7)
Wise words are useless to a fool because his heart is not right with God.  Being wise is an inside job.

7. Understanding them. (v.9)
A fool lacks sense.  His feelings are numb to certain things in life.  He does not feel the impact of wise words.

8. Hiring them. (v.10)
A fool in the work place can jeopardize the morale and production of all the other employees.

9. Enduring them. (v.11)
He will keep on making the same bad decisions over and over until there is some strong correction or a change of heart.

10. Comparing them. (v.12)
There is someone worse than a fool and that is the egoist.  A person who is full of themselves thinks they know better than everyone else.  Like the fool, they do not listen to wisdom.

How to treat someone who has wronged You

Read Proverbs 25.

Forgiving someone who has lied, stolen, betrayed or otherwise hurt you is difficult.  Some would say they cannot forgive.  In doing so, they only harm themselves emotionally and spiritually.  The only basis in the universe for forgiveness of sin is the full payment Christ made on the cross.

We do not deserve to be forgiven by God.  It is an offer of His grace to us.  Therefore, we who have experienced God's forgiveness are free to forgive others their wrongs against us.

Jesus included that thought as an element for our prayers.  "...and forgive us our sins, for we ourselves forgive everyone who is indebted to us." (Luke 11:4a)

Forgiving another person is one thing but how we treat them afterward is the proof.  In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus taught, "You have heard it said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.  But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you...'" (Matthew 5:43-44)

Proverbs 25:21-22 gives specific illustrations of how to put that into practice.  If a household did not have coals for their fire, they could not cook and/or had no heat.  Providing starter coals for a family, which they could carry "on their heads," would have been an act of kindness.

Under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, the Apostle Paul coupled Deuteronomy 32:35 with Proverbs and expanded the application.  "Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.'  To the contrary, 'if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.'  Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."     (Romans 12:19-21)

How to turn a house into a Home

Read Proverbs 24.

The problem with most premarital counseling is that no one is listening.  Trying to discuss real life issues and potential conflicts with two people who are at an emotional peak may prove to be fruitless.  The tragedy is that most couples spend all their time getting ready for the wedding, lasting only a few minutes, and none getting ready for the marriage in which they promise to keep until their death.

What are those key elements that every person, every couple, and everyone in the family needs in order to build a home that will last?

1. "By wisdom a house is built." (v.3a)
Proverbs 9:1 states that "Wisdom has built her house; she has hewn her seven pillars."  James 3:17 lists seven characteristics of godly wisdom: pure, peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial, and sincere.  This requires the filling of the Holy Spirit, self-discipline and a lot of practice.

2. "By understanding it is established." (v.3b)
Understanding each other's personal strengths and weaknesses, abilities and needs, what to do and what not to do, takes a lifelong commitment of time.  This requires a willingness to learn and ability to adapt.

3. "By knowledge the rooms are filled..." (v.4a)
Here is the starting point.  Proverbs 1:7-"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge."  Without a personal relationship with the Savior, the most important decision for a successful marriage will be missed.  Living each day with the mutual awareness of God's life principles and the realization of accountability to Him provides the very glue that is necessary.

3 wise questions to evaluate Motives

Read Proverbs 23.

In the opening verses of this chapter Solomon warns "do not" four times.  His purpose is to cause the reader to evaluate what they are doing and why.  It is the fool who blindly consumes and only to desire more.  But there are motives behind every action; not all are pure.

Here are three questions to ask in evaluating motives.  The point is to think and be careful.
1. Why is a wealthy person showing kindness to you? (vv.1-3)
How should you respond and act when a person of financial means or high position extends an invitation?  A fool sees selfish opportunity and wants to get all they can from the engagement.  Think and be careful.  Most often there is a reason behind the invitation.  Yes, it could be to extend friendship, perhaps a reward, or even something mutually beneficial.  However, just as often it is because they want something from you.  A wise person is humbled to be included and restrains themselves.

2. Why do you do what you do? (vv.4-5)
Knowing one's purpose in life according to God's design is essential to a fulfilling life.  Too many people work hard only for the money.  Money is deceptive and fickle, like a bird that lights on a tree limb and then flies away.  At best, all our finances are temporal.  Money is a tool to be used, not a goal in itself.  So, the moral evaluation in our labors has to do with what we are trying accomplish.  A wise person thinks and is careful.  Once we recognize that God owns everything (Psalm 24:1), we see our work and our wealth as a stewardship to take care of and to expand His work in this world.

3. Why is a stingy person showing kindness to you? (vv.6-8)
It is unusual for a person, who is known to be tight with their finances, to demonstrate generosity.   A wise person thinks and proceeds carefully.  Have they had a change in heart?  Are they doing this out of some forced obligation?  Do they have a hidden agenda?  Of course, we always want to be kind to our host but remember that their motives may not be pure and our compliments wasted.  Without caution we may be setting ourselves up for huge regret.  The word stingy is often translated "evil".  This is in contrast to Proverbs 22:9-"Whoever has a bountiful eye will be blessed, for he shares his bread with the poor."

When it comes to interacting with others, Jesus taught His followers to be "wise as serpents and innocent as doves" (Matthew 10:16).  When it comes to our behavior, we are to be generous and give with pure motives, "expecting nothing in return" (Luke 6:35).

11 words about the Word that will change your Life.

Read Proverbs 22.

(v.17)
1. Incline: My Granddad was hard of hearing.  So, when someone spoke to him, he would place his right hand to his ear, bend the flap, and lean forward.  It was a sign that he was intent on what was being said.
2. Hear: The Hebrew word has to do with giving one's full attention.
3. Apply: It is one thing to listen to knowledge, it is quite another to put it into practice.  Until we implement what we heard, we really have not learned.

(v.18)
4. Pleasant: When one sees the benefits and embraces the truth it is a delight to the soul.
5. Kept within: This involves memorizing verses and/or principles.  Reviewing them for accuracy and meditating on them for wisdom will cause them to stick in our thinking.
6. Ready: When the opportunity arises we have something to say.  Not an opinion, but God's timeless perspective that will be helpful to others now and for eternity.

(v.19)
7. Trust: God's goal is that through knowing and applying the Scriptures our faith and reliance on Him will keep on increasing.

(v.20-21)
8. Written: Though Solomon was specific here, the entirety of Scripture is written down for us.
9. Know: We may have absolute confidence in God's Word about what is right and wrong, true and false.
10. Give: The purpose knowing God’s word is never for personal arrogance or to be used against others.  Sharing Scripture is our greatest resource in serving the true needs of those around us.
11. Sent: We who have committed our lives to Jesus are on a mission to tell the world of God's wonderful message to them.
1 Peter 3:15-16a, "But in your hearts regard Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect..."

When things seem out of Control

Read Proverbs 21.

If you ever wonder if God is still in control, here are three statements to consider.  These will test our faith when things appear to be going in the wrong direction.

1. The LORD controls the leaders.
"The king's heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; he turns it wherever he will."  (v.1)
Do leader's sin? Yes they do.  Are some even under the influence of Satan?  Yes.  But they will ultimately fulfill God's purposes.  In the days of Daniel, Nebuchadnezzar made some horrible, anti-God decisions.  But the LORD was able to protect His people and change the king.  In the days of Esther, the king made some unconscionable decrees.  Yet, God moved in a miraculous way to change the king's mind and world history.  

Pray for the leaders in your life.

2. The LORD controls the plans.
"No wisdom, no understanding, no counsel can avail against the LORD." (v.30)
Satan and the selfish interests of the human mind have invented an endless array of false beliefs and directions for life.  However, none of them will stand the tests of time and truth.  Reading the Scriptures and comparing them with history provides absolute confidence that God is in charge of His-story.  Indeed, the culmination of all things is written down for us.  We are not left in the dark as to what the LORD is doing.
Learn God's plans in the Bible.

3. The LORD controls the results.
"The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the LORD." (v.31)
This statement laughs in the face of those who claim to be self-made successes.  All power and, therefore, all glory belongs to the Owner of all things.  Are we responsible to work hard and diligently use our opportunities for achievement of good goals?  Absolutely.  But as we do, it is with the full recognition of the Source of our gifts, talents, opportunities and results.
Trust God for His will to be done.

Can I trust You?

Read Proverbs 20.

"Trust me", they say.  But are they trustworthy?  Trust is established by verification and/or performance.  Did their words prove true?  Did they do what they promised?

The Bible holds in highest regard a person's faithfulness.  It is a serious matter to the LORD.  Our world treats truth as relative.  Deceit is acceptable.  Lying is rationalized and excused.  Verse 6 asks the question, "...a faithful man who can find?"

1. Claims.
Exaggerations and overstatements are no substitutes for truthfulness in claims or accomplishments.  How many times have high-profile people been caught with false claims on their resumes or plagiarism in their writings?  Some can look right into the camera or under oath and lie.
 
2. Commitments.
Everyday people make promises to lenders to pay on time over a period of years.  They sign their name to the contract to be faithful.  The ultimate commitment in life is marriage.  Before God, family and witnesses the couple makes a lifelong promise, regardless of the circumstances.  The vow states "until death" but at least 50% of marriages do not last that long.  Usually, it is one party who decides to violate the trust and prove to be unfaithful.  Instead of being embarrassed and humbly dealing with the sin, the guilty party wants to simply and pridefully walk away.

3. Conduct.
Verse 23 refers to how one conducts their business.  Some are willing to say anything to make a sale or cheat to get ahead.  But, accuracy is important to God who watches every transaction.

Faithfulness is a character issue of integrity.  God is ever trustworthy.  Those who know Jesus are to reflect His character in every moment.  

"The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness." (Lamentations 3:22-23)

Perspectives on the Poor

Read Proverbs 19.

Wealth can attract the attention of many so-called friends.  But when the money disappears, one discovers who their true friends are.  Then, what about those who never had much?  Judging the poor strictly on their financial status may well lead to a wrong conclusion.

In this chapter, the LORD provides four principles of His perspective on the poor.
1. Character. (v.1)
Here is the contrast.  Which is better: to have no money yet live and do what is right, or to have money yet speak and behave as a fool?  Character has nothing to do with one's bank account.  It has everything to do with who a person is on the inside. Even without resources, a poor person may stand tall in their integrity.

2. Connections. (vv.6-7)
A wealthy person can be surrounded by people and highly connected with others.  Many who desire to be friends with the wealthy are wanting something from them.  But when one has nothing materially to give, it can be lonely.  They may even be treated with disdain.  One of the beautiful features of a healthy local church is its diversity.  Regardless of one's background, race, or financial status, all stand on level ground at the foot of the cross, sit together in worship and learn together how to apply the Scriptures.

3. Charity. (v.17)
Giving to the poor is not a matter of providing money but resources.  This is the mistake of most of the government's efforts.  Wealth redistribution is not helpful to either the wealthy or the poor.  Certainly, there must be provisions of care and compassion for immediate needs.  Counseling and job training coupled with work opportunities are essential to helping people get out of poverty.  The truly poor should be helped in a dignified way that leads them to support themselves.  While a church can provide friendship and spiritual help, the practical resources are usually available through some fine local organizations.

4. Consistency. (v.22)
Everyone desires to be faithfully loved.  If the poor is truly to be helped, it cannot be a hit and miss operation but demonstrated in consistent acts of love for them.  To say we love and not support it with actions is falsehood.  

“…let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.” 1 John 3:18

Rethinking personal Security

Read Proverbs 18.

Where do you run when threatened?  Where is that place of personal safety and security?

1. Physical security. 

When building a city in the days of the Old Testament, security and safety took two basic forms.  There would be a wall all around.  At the sign of trouble, those working in the fields outside could run to the nearest gate.  At night, the gates were locked.  Watchmen served as lookouts at their stations on the wall.  The second type of structure was a tower.  Sometimes, they were built outside the wall or along the road for emergencies.  Often, large defensive towers were constructed inside the wall as a stronghold.  This acted as a large safe-room for people inside the city, if the gates or walls were breached.

Today, there are alarm systems for cars and homes.  We can call 911.  Some have weapons at the ready.  We trust the police to keep our streets safe and the military to protect our nation.  But there are no guarantees.

2. Financial security. (v.11)
Living below our income level.
Keeping plenty of margin in our monthly budget for the unexpected.
Saving money equal to many months of our income in case of job loss.
Contributing the maximum to our retirement funds.
Investing wisely.
These are all prudent ways to build financial security.  But there are no guarantees.

3. Spiritual security. (v.10, 12)
"The name of the LORD is a strong tower."  His name refers to His character and reputation.  The LORD is eternally faithful.  Physical safety measures may not always protect us.  Financial losses are always possible.  But the strong name of Jesus is an unfailing place of refuge and peace.  The enemy of this security is pride.  Once a person admits their need and humbles themselves before God they discover His acceptance and protection.

Lina Sandell penned the old hymn entitled "Security."
"More secure is no one ever than the loved ones of the Savior..."
"Neither life nor death can ever from the Lord His children sever;
For His love and deep compassion comforts them in tribulation."

6 keys to peace and Quiet

Read Proverbs 17.

Peace and quiet are missing elements in our noisy, high-tech, informational bombarding world.  We need times of turning off the noise.  Withdrawing to a place of solitude for prayer and spiritual renewal is necessary for our well-being.  There are times when remaining quiet when we could have spoken shows wise discernment.  Living in contentment instead of striving for more brings inner satisfaction.

Several verses in this chapter underscore the values of peace and quiet.
1. Our home. (v.1)
Having more stuff often brings more stress and strife with it.  Being grateful for what we have is essential to peace at home.

2. Our listening. (v.4)
What goes in is sure to come out.  A person who allows their ears to listen to evil, wicked words will be affected in their thinking, their speech and their behavior.  We need to screen, and even steel, ourselves from people, music, and movies that are offensive to the LORD.

3. Our trustworthiness. (v.9)
Covering has to do with keeping quiet about someone else's sin.  Ideally, with confession and forgiveness, the matter can be resolved quietly and peaceably.  But when instead the sin is told to those who are not part of the problem, or part of the solution, a person's character can be destroyed.  Open conflict will be the result.

4. Our responses. (v.14)
When conflict does come (and it will), it is important to respond quickly and not allow escalation.  It is easier to deal with a small disagreement than it is to stop a war.

5. Our family. (v.17)
Many times we are not able to cope with the trouble that comes our way.  We need someone to listen to us, to love us, and to provide assistance.  That is why God has given us a family.  Friends may come and go, but we have family by birth.  Many do not have a natural family to whom they can turn.  The church is a family of believers who can provide that kind of mutual support to each other.

6. Our discretion. (v.20)
Knowing when to speak up and when to be quiet requires wisdom.  Telling all we know in every conversation is foolishness.  Sometimes the hardest work of all is the ministry of simply listening to another's strife.  Wisdom is often demonstrated by its restraint as much as its actions.

6 questions to ask of every Plan

Read Proverbs 16.

Everyone has dreams and desires they would like to see accomplished.  But without plans and appropriate action, our desires will only be wishes that will never happen.  Planning requires thought.  What should we be thinking in regards to things we want to see take place.

1. Who is in control? (vv.1, 33)
Ultimately, we must be willing to submit our wills to God’s sovereignty.  We can come up with ideas, even wonderfully helpful ones, but primary in our thinking must be what the LORD wants us to be doing.

2. What is my motive? (vv.2, 18)
Is this a selfish idea to feed my pride or is this a great plan that will help others?  Pride is the enemy.  Getting ahead at all costs will not go unpunished.  Winning is a worthy goal, but it is not everything.

3. How have I prayed? (vv.3, 9)
Notice, it is not did I pray but how.  Was I trying to talk God into my idea or was I surrendering my thoughts to His will for my life?  The outcome of the latter will be settledness or contentment in my heart as I move forward.

4. Do I recognize God's purpose? (v.4)
Ephesians 2:10 states that our lives are His workmanship.  In Romans 8:28, Paul wrote that all things in life work together for our good and God's glory.  Envisioning how this plan fits God's purpose for my life provides a boldness and confidence nothing else can.

5. What influence could this have on those who do not like me? (v.7)
A wrong sort of competitive spirit can be warlike.  But one of the indicators that the Holy Spirit is in control is peace.  We cannot control nor are we responsible for how others may respond.  We are accountable to God for actions.

6. Where is this leading? (vv.17, 25)
Is this plan clean before God and is it headed in the right direction?  A hallmark of the right plan is that it leads away from anything sinful or evil.

A valuable verse to memorize:
"Commit your work to the LORD and your plans will be established." (v.3)

2 things that are free and have a high Price

Read Proverbs 15.

The best things in life are free...and come at a high cost.

In the middle of this chapter, are two verses that declare things that are "better" for life.  Each is free, in that they do not require any money.  Yet, each of them bears a high price.

1. Holding God in reverence. (v.16)
Repeatedly in the book of Proverbs we are admonished to fear the LORD.  This is the starting point of all wisdom (1:7) and it is the requirement for the path of life.  Experiencing such a relationship with the Living God is free by His grace.  It is His gift to us (Romans 6:23).  Yet, it comes at such a price we cannot imagine.  The sinless Son of God took our sin upon Himself so we might have His righteousness (2 Corinthians 5:21).  This, according to wisdom, is better than having all the money in the world.

2. Loving family at home. (v.17)
The household income may be meager.  One's financial ability may be limited to an extreme.  But expressing and receiving love is free.  Yet, it costs us repeatedly in the daily sacrifices in every way.  Maintaining a loving relationship with family involves giving up what we want for the needs of the people God has given to us.  It changes the use of our time, deflates our egos, changes our plans, and will drain what finances we do have.  It will drive us to our knees for intercessory prayer.  True love is more than an emotion.  What separates love from lust is commitment.  When one is willing to commit themselves for life to their family and their needs, it will be better than all the other provisions one could possibly give to their family.

Is truth relative or Absolute?

Read Proverbs 14.

Nothing is more foundational to a person's character than truthfulness.  If one's words cannot be trusted then any relationship with them will prove futile and, perhaps, dangerous.

1. Living a lie. (v.2)
How a person responds to the LORD is the first step in building a life of truthfulness.  It is the understanding that we are accountable to God for every word.  Jesus said, "I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak." (Matthew 12:36)  Those who try to ignore this basic truth will find themselves living a lie, pretending they have no accountability.  With God as Judge, no one gets away with lying.

2. Telling a lie. (vv.5 and 25)
Both of these verses refer to a witness providing public testimony.  The example in verse 25 appears to be a capital trial where a defendant's life is at stake.  The point is that what we say has direct effect on the lives of others.  Always telling the truth is the recognition that our words are accountable to others.  Sooner or later, the truth will be known.  No one gets away with lying.
  
3. Knowing the truth. (v.6)
When a person is right with God they are committed to the truth.  Understanding the applications of truth is the essence of spiritual growth.  Sid S. Buzzell wrote, "Mockers look for wisdom in all the wrong places." (Bible Knowledge Commentary).  Some are being told the lie to look within themselves.  Some are told the lie to trust in systems or organizations.  The Apostle Paul wrote strong words of condemnation for those who would seek truth in other places in 2 Timothy 3.  The entire chapter makes the point that without a commitment to Jesus Christ and the Scriptures one is doomed to be "always learning and never able to arrive at a knowledge of the truth." (v.7)

Jesus, the Living Word of God.  "I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me." (John 14:6)
The Scriptures, the Written Word of God.  Jesus prayed, "Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth." (John 17:17)

6 principles of financial Prosperity

Read Proverbs 13.

Resources are everywhere on the subject of financial planning, wealth management, and how to retire to the life of your dreams.  Then, in fine print, all legitimate investments will include a disclaimer that there are no guarantees.  When the Bible speaks to these subjects it is in the form of principles that are rooted in personal character.  Yes, your financial results may vary, but the wisdom is timeless.

1. Always tell the truth. (v.5)
"The righteous hates falsehood."  How many get-rich-quick schemes have been based upon false assumptions?  How many sales presentations have exaggerated or lied to close the deal?  Lying may result in a sale but when the truth is known everyone involved will be disappointed.

2.  Do not pretend to be something you are not. (v.7)
Quite often the person who flaunts a wealthy image is a pretender.  They become so concerned how others perceive them that they behave foolishly.  It is form of lying.  On the other hand, one whom God has blessed with a degree of abundance should use discernment as a good and accountable steward of what they have been given.

3. Be patient and take the long view. (v.11)
We live in a world that increasingly wants instant gratification.  And, in the area of money, the tendency is to get all you can and get it now.  That is the consistent thinking of the foolish.  Wisdom takes the long view and sees that a sustainable life is built by the decisions made day by day.  The question of good stewardship is what are we doing with what the LORD has already provided?  In the parable of the talents, part of the rewarding phrase is "You have been faithful over little; I will set you over much" (Matthew 25:21).

4. Listen to wise advice. (v.18)
A sure sign of a fool is that they reject wisdom.  The results are poverty and disgrace.  One who heeds sound counsel and behaves accordingly is on the opposite path.

5. Plan to impact future generations. (v.22)
No one takes their wealth with them.  One day we will leave everything behind.  The foolish spend all they have on worthless and selfish interests.  The wise are thinking of how they can help others, even after they are gone.  A good steward is one who not only is generous with their income, but also is a good steward of their estate.  Not having an updated will and an estate plan is poor stewardship to say the least.

6. Learn to be content. (v.25)
Being diligent in our work and trusting God to provide for our needs is basic to faith in Him.  Discipling our wants is absolutely crucial.  So, whether we have plenty or in need, it is our character that is being put to the wisdom test.  The Apostle Paul wrote, "I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content.  I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound."  

Wise people are Encouraging

Read Proverbs 12.

No one needs to search for things to discourage them.  There is plenty enough to be found for all of us in every direction.  One of the character traits of a wise person is their kindness and words of encouragement.  Any fool can criticize.  It requires thoughtfulness to add value to others.

"Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad." (v.25)

The Institute for Biblical Preaching, founded by Dr. Stephen Olford, provided the following outline of this single verse.
I. The Weight of Discouragement
   1) There is a Cause of Discouragement
   2) There is a Curse of Discouragement
II. The Word of Encouragement
   1) The Source of Encouragement
   2) The Strength of Encouragement

Burdened by sin, plus the cares and worries of this life, cause a person to droop mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.  But one kind, loving, word of good news can release that weight and set a person free.

Speaking encouraging words to others does not come naturally.  But once we have experienced the life-changing power of Christ and His kindness to us, we of all people have more than enough hope to share.

"For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and envy, hated by others and hating one another.  But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us..." (Titus 3:3-5a)

13 benefits of being right with God

Read Proverbs 11.

What difference does it make in real life if one is right with God?  Righteousness is the result of being spiritually born into God's family through personal faith in Jesus Christ.  "If you know that he is righteous, you may be sure that everyone who practices righteousness has been born of him" (1 John 2:29).  Faith in Christ saves us.  But as James reminds us, "faith without works is dead."  So how does being right with God show itself?

This chapter repeatedly contrasts the wisdom of the wise with the foolishness of the wicked.
1. The righteous have security beyond this life. (v.4)
2. The righteous live a consistent life. (v.5)
3. The righteous are free from the bondage of sin. (v.6)
4. The righteous discern and protect themselves from trouble. (v.8)
5. The righteous know they must control their words. (v.9)
6. The righteous serve for the community's benefit. (v.10-11)
7. The righteous do not place their faith in the uncertainty of money. (v.18)
8. The righteous pursue those things that protect their lives. (v.19)
9. The righteous make decisions that protect their family. (v.21)
10. The righteous have a passion for good. (v.23)
11. The righteous are not dependent on circumstances to grow as a person. (v.28)
12. The righteous add value to others by their wisdom. (v.30)
13. The righteous understand that no one gets away with sin. (v.31)

Wisdom, Wealth, and Words

Read Proverbs 10.

"A wise son makes a glad father."  Every parent wants their children to grow up to be wise in their life choices and decisions.  Solomon touches on numerous points in this chapter but he keeps coming back to two in particular that demonstrate wisdom.

1. The Wealth of the Wise
v.1-It must be earned honestly.
v.4-It is earned through diligence.
v.5-It is the result of timely work.
v.15-It provides personal security.
v.16-It is used by the righteous for a meaningful life.
v.22-It needs God's blessing to have lasting value.

2. The Words of the Wise
v.11-They provide refreshment to others.
v.13-They bring clarity to life circumstances.
v.20-They are of high value.
v.21-They benefit others.
v.31-They are the fruit of the cultivation of the heart.
v.32-They delight those who listen.

7 pillars of Wisdom

Read Proverbs 9.

Wisdom is pictured as having prepared a feast and sent out messengers inviting anyone to come.  The question of life is who will respond to wisdom and who will choose to continue to behave foolishly.

It is interesting that the announcement states that wisdom is built on a platform of seven pillars.  But we are not told what they are.  Though many have made various suggestions to explain the symbolism, the reality seems to be that wisdom has a large, spacious place with plenty of room for all who wish to respond.

I am indebted to Dr. Henry Morris and his masterful synthesis of Scripture as he connected the seven pillars to James 3:17.  "But the wisdom from above is...
1. First pure
Without a commitment to maintaining a life of piety and holiness, wisdom can go no further.  Without purity, a person’s thinking will be tainted.  We are to be holy, because the One we worship is holy.

2. Peaceable
A wise person seeks peace, even in times of confrontation.  There is a settledness and contentment in the demeanor of one who is wise.

3. Gentle
Who does not feel safe in the presence of a person who is mild-mannered?  Gentleness puts the feelings of others ahead of our own.  A soft voice is most often more effective and heard above the yells of others.

4. Open to reason.
A sure sign of a wise person is how they respond when presented with a decision.  Do they foolish try to intimidate or are they easily approachable?  Do their decisions make sense to all?

5. Full of mercy and good fruits
This is not the picture of an inert guru.  One who is wise is known by their many acts of kindness to others.

6. Impartial
The wise are characterized by fair and equitable decisions.  There is no prejudice or favor to one side.

7. Sincere
What you see is what you get.  There are no hidden agendas, no hypocrisy or double messages.

The sound of Wisdom

Read Proverbs 8.

Solomon often personified wisdom.  Here, wisdom openly calls for attention.  As people are going along in life, at a crossroads decision, or in the market place when business choices are being made, where does one look for guidance.  God is not silent in those times.  We will act wisely or foolishly depending upon whether we listen to what He has to say to us.

There are at least four key characteristics of God's wisdom.  In making decisions here is a quick checklist.

1.  Is it Noble? (v.6a)
Something noble is a cut above the rest.  It stands out like a military officer in dress uniform; everyone notices.  Think of the right sort of pride in excellence.  Choosing wisely is like that.

2. Is it Right? (v.6b)
When something is right, it is morally and legally just in the sight of the LORD.  There is no partiality.  It is simply the right thing to do.

3. Is it Truth? (v.7)
A lie is an abomination to God.  A half-truth is a nothing more than a big fat lie.  To represent the One who claims to be Truth and has given us His truth in writing means we must speak and act truthfully at all times.

4. Is it Straight? (v.9)
Speaking in a straightforward manner means there is no duplicity.  God's wisdom is plain for all to understand.  God’s word has integrity and is consistent throughout.

How valuable is God's wisdom?
"...all that you may desire cannot be compared with her." (v.11b)

How do you know when you have it?
"The fear of the LORD is hatred of evil." (v.13)

What is the reward of wisdom?
"For whoever finds me finds life and obtains favor from the LORD." (v.35)

How many times do I have to tell you?

Read Proverbs 7.

Three chapters in a row, Solomon gives wisdom concerning sex outside of marriage.  He even does a bit of name calling.
-"simple" means "silly (that is seducible); foolish."
-"lacking sense" or "void of understanding."

1. He looked. (vv.8-9)
The writer observed a young man strolling in a place where he should not have been, but the indication is that he knew where he was going.  Notice the metaphor of darkness.

2. She lured. (vv. 10-20)
Men are particularly attracted to women who are nice to them and relationally available.  She is unfaithful to her husband.  She lied concerning her marriage vows and she is lying to this man.  Her character is bankrupt.

3. He lunged. (vv.21-23)
"All at once," he jumped at this opportunity to sin.  If he had only stopped to think of the consequences, he may have chosen to act wisely instead.  But voluntarily he gave in to this trap, like an animal caught and ready to be slaughtered.  It will pierce his insides when he realizes his stupidity.  "It will cost him his life."  There is no pleasure here.

4. The lesson.
>Guard your heart (v.25a)
>Be where you are supposed to be (v.25b)
>Remember the full consequences of sin (vv.26-27)

The other side of God

Read Proverbs 6.

The character of the God of the Bible is love and grace.  Jesus said, "You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free" (John 8:32).   Unfortunately, some only hear the word "free" and proceed to abuse the grace of God by violating His truth.  The LORD is also a God of justice, accountability, and, yes, there are things that God hates.

This chapter contains no less than five sections of warning.  These are not mere suggestions or principles but red flags of what to urgently avoid.  Putting ourselves at risk by co-signing a loan for a non-family member is foolish.  Committing adultery will compound sin upon sin.  But a person's character remains the core of all behaviors.

Here are seven character traits God hates from verses 16-19.
1. Haughty eyes.
Both Old and New Testaments condemn personal pride.  "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble." (James 4:6)
2. Lying.
Jesus said, "I am....the truth" (John 14:6)  To believe in Jesus is to come to the truth about who God is, what He has done for us, and what He says about us.  A genuine Christian lives out the truth of God's Word.  The sin of lying destroys all credibility of our message to a world that needs to know Him.
3. Murder of the innocent.
Chapter one warns against associating with those who are lawless and ambush people for sport.  Killing for the sake of blood-thirst reveals the ultimate violence that God hates.
4. Planning to sin.
Some dream and then plot how they could sin.  Whether that means fraudulent financial scheming or sexual sin, the heart becomes obsessed with doing evil, instead planning to do good.
5. Running to do evil.
There is no planning here.  In quick fashion, when the opportunity to sin presents itself, the person jumps at it.  God wants us to live lives of discipline and responsibility.
6. False witness.
This takes lying to a higher level.  No longer is the person lying about themselves but now they lie about other people.  Most often, this may be done for self-protection, self-promotion, or vengeance.
7. Sowing discord.
How many church families have been severely damaged in their ministries due to rumor, gossip, and power plays of sinful people?  The effectiveness of a church, the health of any group of people, depends on the ability to lovingly work together.  To do otherwise is destructive and sinful.  We are to serve one another "until we all attain to the unity of the faith." (Ephesians 4:13).

The high cost of Adultery

Read Proverbs 5.

Television and movies constantly present sex outside of marriage.  Their presumption often is that adultery is inevitable, everyone does it, and it won't hurt anyone.  Such thinking is based upon multiple lies.

1. Not everyone physically violates their vows.
2. The marriage vow states that both parties will be faithful to the other, regardless of circumstances, until their death.
3. No one gets away with it.  The couple involved and everyone around them suffers long-term consequences.

Solomon held nothing back in this chapter.  He tells it like it really is.  Do not miss all his descriptions what does and can happen.

It is foolish and shows a lack of wise behavior.  It reveals a gap in one’s personal character and discipline.  The results will be bitter.  It will cut the insides like a sword.  The adulterer is playing on the path to hell and not life.  Both parties will lose honor and respect.  Strangers may take everything away without mercy.  In addition, there is the risk STDs that can lead to death.  So much for the glamour of the movies.  This is the real story.

How do people get into such sin?
"How I hated discipline, and my heart despised reproof!  I did not listen to the voice of my teachers or incline my ear to my instructors." (v.12)

What is the solution?
"Drink water from your own cistern." (v.15)  In other words, enjoy who God has provided for you at home.  Don't share yourself with anyone else. (v.17)
"Be intoxicated always with her love." (v.19)
Remember, God sees and holds us accountable for our actions. (v.21)

Wisdom in Action

Read Proverbs 4.

This may be the strongest admonition in the Bible to get wisdom, insight and understanding.  Again, it is addressed from one generation to the younger.  Note that this is not a religious call, nor is it optional.  Three times we are told that such wisdom is life itself.

"Keep hold of instruction; do not let go; guard her, for she is your life." (v.13)
"For they are life to those who find them." (v.22)
"Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life." (v.23)

What are the action steps in my life that demonstrate a heart that is committed to wisdom?
1. My Words. (v.24)
The charge here to put away all crooked speech and devious talk.  Lying and deception are the elements of a fool's communication.  Sooner or later it will be discovered.  Shame follows a fool as sure as day follows night.  A person committed to God is committed to truth.  Words are carefully spoken by those who keep their heart with all vigilance.

2. My Watch. (v.25)
The choices we make in our viewing habits reveal whether we are foolish or wise.  A wise person is vigilant about what they allow their eyes to see.  This is not referring to the casual glance but the "gaze" on things that displease the LORD.

3. My Walk. (v.26)
A person committed to wisdom is careful about the direction and places they go.  Each step in life is a decision to obey God or behave foolishly.

Ken Taylor's paraphrase of 4:23 communicates the intent so well.  "Above all else, guard your affections.  For they influence everything else in your life."

Listen to your Father

Read Proverbs 3.

The wisest man who ever lived passed godly wisdom to the next generation and ultimately to us.  Throughout Proverbs the term "my son" is used to give direct fatherly advice.  The principles, though written nearly 3,000 year ago are timeless and needed today as never before.

The overarching message of this chapter is all the benefits of listening to and practicing these principles.  But, as we were first instructed in 1:7, success in life begins with a holy reverence for who God is.  So, if we are to be truly wise, what are those practical action steps that demonstrate our commitment to God?

1. Trust in the LORD. (vv.3-8)
Whom do you trust?  One is the Creator, Controller, and has all power, who designed each life with a plan and purpose.  The other is a human who is guessing.  There is an internal struggle to give into what seems right to us, or feels good at the moment, versus what is right according to God.  The admonition here is to not trust in yourself.  Self-reliance will lead to egoism and selfish decisions.  But wholehearted trust in God, leads to true success in life and will prove helpful to others.

2. Honor the LORD. (vv.9-10)
The black and white, clear and quantitative evidence of one's trust in the LORD is the surrender of their money.  Jesus spoke to this issue more than prayer or any other subject.  From the time of Cain and Abel, through the Old Testament sacrificial system to this very day, giving to God according to His Word is not optional.  We are not allowed to "lean on your own understanding."  Giving is an outward sign of submission to God and my trust in Him to take care of my needs.  Notice, left overs are not acceptable.  Giving is the first thing on the budget list before anything else.  God demands the priority in our lives.  As a result, He will be faithful to us.

3. Do not despise the LORD's discipline. (vv.11-12)
Because we are human, it is not a matter of if we will receive discipline; we will.  The difference in being wise is learning from our mistakes, or sin.  Some people waste their lives making the same foolish decisions over and over.  When God steps in to correct us, it is a proof of His love for us.  Negligence is worse than hatred.  A parent does not discipline the neighbor kids.  When we are reproved by God, it is evidence that we belong to Him.

The secret to guarding and guiding your Life

Read Proverbs 2.

Some of the best-selling books are those with a so-called new life-guidance plan for success.  Those books will come and go.  In addition, they usually are strongly based upon modern American culture.  But true life principles are timeless and transcend culture.

The Bible continues to be the world's best seller and for good reason.  The Scriptures provide all the basics of life-coaching.  These lessons only come to those who meet the qualifications.

1. "If you receive..." (vv.1-2)
There is no substitute for investing personal time in the Word of God to know exactly what is said.  False thinking and foolish talk come from those who have never studied the Bible for themselves.  More than merely reading, there must be a receiving of God's wisdom and understanding.  An open and ready heart is required.

2. "If you call out..." (v.3)
Even after eagerly reading, there may still be a lack of understanding and of how to apply what is written.  Praying and asking the Author for guidance is essential.  Jesus referred to the Holy Spirit as "the Spirit of truth" and "he will guide you into all truth."  Without that dependence, one will be left to their own devices and certainly come to error.  In addition to calling out to the LORD for help, there are mature believers available who can provide wise counsel in implementing God's principles.

3. "If you seek..." (v.4)
This is not a puzzle to be put together over a weekend and declare it done.  As long as life goes on so does the search and discovery.  The journey of digging into and mining out the wealth of the Scriptures is the most rewarding adventure ever.  "Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God!  How unsearchable are his judgments and how inscrutable his ways!" (Romans 11:33)

There are two key results:
"Then you will understand the fear of the LORD..." (vv.5-8)
The result here is "he is a shield to those who walk in integrity."
Guarding your life.

"Then you will understand righteousness and justice and equity and every good path." (vv.6-15)
Guiding your life.